There are almost always warning signs before calamity strikes. It’s certainly a cliche to hear people say: if only we had heeded the warning signs. This is true of bridge collapses, storms, political events, and of relationship break ups.
A word of warning. If you’re a paranoid person, don’t read this article. Note that the points made here address changes in behavior that were not normal for your partner in the past. Likewise, the more signs that apply to your relationship the more likely it’s in trouble.
1.) Is the love and affection that you give her a one way street. When you try to relate to her more, does her contact with you drop off? If this situation describes the two of you, it is a signal that your relationship has some deep rooted problems.
2.) Has she changed in her expression of affection for you? Does she back away when you try to kiss? This type of shift in behavior is a serious indication that something is very wrong.
Perhaps she doesn’t avoid your kisses but there is no emotion or passion in it. It’s not boredom that you’re trying to detect but an aversion to expressions of affection.
3.) Are you quarreling over the smallest of things? The odd dispute once in a while is normal. But chronic fighting is a bad sign.
Constant fighting and bickering over trivial things means there is a more serious problem that you as a couple don’t want to face. Is fear of a separation keeping you together? Or is it a different matter that’s got to be addressed immediately?
4.) Have you been downgraded to chopped liver status? What this means is that anything no matter how small is more important than you. For example, her social calendar is always too busy to accommodate you.
This can be an extremely trying and difficult situation to be trapped in. For all intents and purposes she has kicked you out of her life. Although you may not have broken up, you might as well be.
5.) Is your girlfriend starting to be very secretive lately? Not saying where she’s been or quickly ending her phone conversations when you enter the room? Behavior like this is odd and you have to ask yourself why?
6.) Does your partner appear distant, distracted, somewhere else? She will make apathetic remarks and won’t contribute much if anything to your communication. There are many reasons for this behavior but when taken in addition to other break up signs, it is significant.
Remember that these tips only apply to recent behavior changes in your partner. Any behavior that’s part of her normal personality make up doesn’t count. Also try to rule out other problems or stresses in her life that may be causing her behavior to change.